I want you to think back and ask; what was your sex education? Who did you learn from? What did they teach you? Was your pleasure one of the topics? In this episode, we’re connecting with Melissa Louise, a “Sexpert” who has traveled, taught, and supported clients in 25 countries over the past 30 years. Melissa believes it’s everyone’s birthright to have true, sacred, and guilt-free sexual and menstrual education, that will lead us all to knowing “Our pleasure is NOT optional”. Melissa combines her knowledge of Tantric, Ancient Daoist, and Modern Realizations to shatter, what she believes is a dangerous veil surrounding sexuality, intimacy, and our bodies. Though Melissa says she’s a “Sexpert”, she is so much more than that! Melissa teaches people how to strengthen their relationship with themselves, with their partners, and how to master their life through mastering their sexuality. In this episode, Melissa will help remove any guilt surrounding sex, she will make you question what you know and what you have learned, she will talk about her journey, and give you tangible advice and activities to master your pleasure, your relationships, and your life. I want to say that I feel far from an expert on this topic, and was even a little nervous to do this interview. But all I can say is; through Melissa’s bold, yet down to earth message, I’ve learned so much and feel extremely grateful for everything she has to share. This woman is a powerhouse, her message is very important, and I love and respect her very much. I really think you’re going to enjoy this one!
Show Notes:
5:17- Melissa discusses the importance of our sexuality, and how sex and menstruation are some of the least talked about subjects, even though she feels they are such integral aspects of our healing
10:13- Removing guilt and shame around sex and our sexuality
11:43- Addressing the problems with our sex education. She proposes the question of why our pleasure is never on the docket of discussion
15:56- Melissa delves into some of the conditioning surrounding sex
21:06- Your pleasure is your responsibility
23:30- Melissa explains how to effectively communicate your needs and desires with your partner through empowering language, rather than “griping”or shutting down
25:47- Separating your orgasm from sex and pleasure
29:44- Melissa brings up the history of circumcision & the potential problems & misconceptions surrounding it
35:39- Sexual practices and intimacy activities you can work on yourself and with your partner
41:43- Great questions to ask your partner; eg. “Would you be willing?" & “What do you need right now?”
44:06- What does LOVE look like and what does SEX look like to you?
49:35- Learning & understanding your partner’s menstrual cycle to support them and better both of your knowledge & relationship
50:11- “When to go fishing, when to drink beer, and when to be tying her up” - Melissa Louise
59:05- How Melissa got into her divine work
107:44- When & how Melissa knew this was her path
114:48- How to bring Intention into your erotic play
117:37- Melissa’s three truths
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